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Finding Faithful When Dreams Fall Apart

Posted in Affirmation, Encouragement, Faith, Faithfulness, Guest Writers, Relationships, and Self-care

I'm pleased to welcome Krista Pettiford to our Lenten focus on faithfulness. Her heart to affirm women is deeply felt in her book, A Call to God's Daughters to Step into His Lab (Love - Acceptance - Beauty) and in her L.A.B. Chat podcasts on ITunes and kristapettiford.com. 

She candidly shares how God pursued her, even when her dreams fell apart. Thank you Krista for sharing your story on finding faithful in the midst of divorce.

“The Lord is close to the brokenhearted; he rescues those whose spirits are crushed.” Psalms 34:18 NLT

Krista’s story:

Married just short of seven years, my marriage began to unravel. I’d been in a relationship with my then husband for over 15 years. We met, lived together, had children and married without the benefits of walking with God.

However, shortly after we married, I was radically born-again. I don’t believe my salvation is to blame for things going south. But they did.

1. How would you describe your faith walk or view of God before your pain appeared?

Before the pain of divorce, I’d just become a new Christian so my view of God was still coming into focus. I grew up in the Catholic religion and had a relationship with God through Jesus as my Savior.

However, as an adult, I had four children and got married — in that order. I didn’t know enough to fully trust God, but I knew He was real and I was willing to follow Him.

2. What surprised you the most about this season of your life?

The thing that surprised me about this season in my life was that it happened.

As a new Christian, I began to hear about the many ways God could and wanted to bless me. Then bam — my marriage and my life fell apart!

It was a contradiction to what I was hearing. But I was already smitten by grace. It seemed the closer I drew to God, the more the seams of my life came undone.

I continued to go after Him and learned to trust His word, even though I couldn’t trace what He was doing.  I had no logical explanation for my husband leaving less than three years after I put my faith in Christ.

3. Who or what did God use to teach you about (or remind you of) His faithfulness and love?

God used my relationship with Him and the church. I started going to early morning intercessory prayer with a group of older women. They prayed with me for God to bring my husband back.

That didn’t happen. But God walked me through that season of life and gave me the grace to keeping going.

I learned to enter into His presence, worship Him, and hear His undeniable voice during that time. As I lay on the altar and prayed for others, God ministered to me. He directed me and guided me. He showed me and told me He is faithful.

4. How does God use your testimony to encourage others?

Now, I lead the same prayer ministry God used to heal me. I’m the women’s ministry leader at my local church and I minister to women in crisis or transition.

I know and share the assurance that God is near to the broken-hearted and sets those that are alone in families. He leads them to a wealthy place.

I teach women how to have a deeper relationship with God. Some are married, single, or somewhere in between, which is where I lived for a long time.

I am able to teach others how to hear His voice, be led by Him, and allow His love, acceptance, and beauty to shape their identities as they live out their faith.

5. How do you desire to demonstrate faithfulness in your walk with God?

I desire to stay the course in all God has given me to do. I desire to be the woman He’s called me to be — to do the work and finish the race He’s called me to run.

Krista Pettiford is mom to four beautiful children, the women’s ministry leader and a prayer leader at her local church, New Covenant Tabernacle located in San Diego where she lives.

She is also a dynamic speaker. Krista has a B.A. in Biblical Studies from Southern California Seminary. She writes and ministers with a solid Biblical message and the anointing of the Holy Spirit. She is dedicated to leading women into a deeper relationship with the triune God and helping them be who God created them to be.

You can connect with Krista on her website at www.kristapettiford.com.

You can also connect with her through social media: Instagram: @kristapettiford Twitter: @kristapettiford  Facebook: kristapettifordpage  and YouTube: kristapettifordchan

8 Comments

  1. I’m so sorry you went through divorce. But thank you for sharing your story and your vulnerability. Blessed to be your neighbor at the Ra Ra linkup today.

    March 15, 2017
    • Joy
      Joy

      Hi Tara. Like you, it’s hard for me to hear someone has endured a painful season. However, I’m grateful to Krista for sharing her pain and her healing process with transparency and godly focus. Thanks for stopping by from #RaRa! Blessings to you!

      March 15, 2017
    • kristapettiford
      kristapettiford

      Hi Tara. Thank you for your condolences. I try to be transparent to help others going through similar situations. That season of my life is over and I’m very happy and blessed for God’s work in my life. He brought me out to a wealthy place so it’s easy to share. I am healed.

      March 16, 2017
  2. Debi Schuhow
    Debi Schuhow

    You said it, the more I draw close to God and surrender to Him, the more my life falls apart. That’s me.

    March 16, 2017
    • Joy
      Joy

      Hi Debi. Thank you for sharing your heart. I’m sorry to hear your surrender to God is occurring along side life’s difficulties. Whenever I’ve felt this way, the Scriptures and prayers of others bring great comfort. May these words from Psalm 143:10-12 strengthen you:

      “Teach me to do your will, for you are my God. May your gracious Spirit lead me forward on a firm footing. For the glory of your name, O Lord, preserve my life. Because of your faithfulness, bring me out of this distress.”

      I’m praying you’ll experience the Lord holding you together even when you feel like life is falling apart. He is faithful.

      March 16, 2017
      • Debi Schuhow
        Debi Schuhow

        Thank You. I’m going to print that verse out and meditate on it. You’re the first person to testify that the more she surrendered to God the more it seemed life was falling apart.

        March 17, 2017
    • kristapettiford
      kristapettiford

      Let me share a Scripture that brought time comfort during that time and other times of falling apart. the Lord only tears up what he’s planning to put back together even better. Trust that He will come like the rain.

      “Come, and let us return to the Lord; for He has torn, but He will heal us;
      He has stricken, but He will bind us up. After two days He will revive us;
      On the third day He will raise us up, That we may live in His sight.
      Let us know, let us pursue the knowledge of the Lord. His going forth is established as the morning,He will come to us like the rain,like the latter and former rain to the earth.” Hosea 6:1-3

      March 16, 2017
      • Joy
        Joy

        Thanks Krista! Hosea 6:1-3 is blessing me right now!

        March 16, 2017

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