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When Insecurity Is Turned Inside Out

Posted in Encouragement, Home Page, and Lessons I've Learned (so far) Series

I’m usually excited when a friend shares good news. But enthusiasm escaped me when a friend shared a recent accomplishment. Thankfully, we were on the phone. Otherwise, she would have seen my dark brown eyes turn green.

She’d notice my frown betray “wonderful” as it fell from my mouth.

Funny, it didn’t feel wonderful. Her good news was annoying. It kept tapping me on the shoulder like a nervous usher wanting me to move to another seat.

I tried to fake a reason to change the subject, until I sensed God saying, “Don’t be jealous, join her.”

I scrambled to maintain the conversation on the phone, while asking the Lord in my heart, “How am I supposed to do that?”

The God-sense continued: “Tell her you’re struggling. Tell her you’ll support her anyway you can.”  I said those words and the conversation shifted from fake to God-focused.

My friend was surprised when I made my confession. But she graciously listened and encouraged me. Then she shared her struggles too. We formed an accountability and prayer partnership. It meets both of our needs and exceeds our expectations.

It happened as I allowed my insecurity to be turned inside out. I could have kept it in — where it fed my fears and starved my ability to grow.

I could have become critical of what I lacked the courage to pursue.

But the Prince of Peace offers rescue from whatever belittles us or embitters us. (see Hebrews 12:15) Of course, He loves us as we are — insecurities and all. However, my encounters with Christ affirm His love and invite my transformation.

Sometimes I resist the change. But eventually I grow weary of self-sabotage. This was one of those times. Now the God-sense made sense. Because in the midst of our struggles, when a friendship forms a safe place, insecurity has no place to go but out.

The person who shuns the bitter moments of friends will be an outsider at their celebrations. – Proverbs 14:10 MSG

This post is part of my "Lessons I've Learned About Life (so far)" series for the #write31days challenge. To find out more start here.

12 Comments

  1. This is so amazing!!! WOW!!! I so appreciate how you were vulnerable with your friend while celebrating with her. Kudos to you and your friend for stepping into that vulnerable place and supporting each other.

    October 23, 2017
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    • Joy
      Joy

      I’m glad this post spoke to your heart. It’s not easy to admit our flaws. But when I trust God, he guides me in the steps of faith I need to take to walk in freedom!

      October 23, 2017
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  2. akhamptons5
    akhamptons5

    Thank you for this post! I love to see God’s light and truth exposing Satan’s plans and redeeming them for God’s good purposes. God bless you for being brave enough to obey and humble enough to admit your feelings. This blessed me today!

    October 23, 2017
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    • Joy
      Joy

      You’re welcome! I’m grateful for God’s leading in my moment of weakness and my friend’s support and understanding. Blessings to you!

      October 23, 2017
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  3. Thank you for this! What a wonderful example of how “the Prince of Peace offers rescue from whatever belittles or embitters us.” Amen!

    October 24, 2017
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    • Joy
      Joy

      Hi Alyson! Yes, God is so good and always on time with His rescues!

      October 24, 2017
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  4. Thank you for such an amazing post; it is refreshing to see transparency in people; God is so good! I sit a couple of doors down from you on Cheerleaders of Faith link up this morning! God bless and have a blessed day

    October 24, 2017
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    • Joy
      Joy

      Thanks for stopping by! I’m glad this post encouraged you. Blessings to you too!

      October 24, 2017
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  5. Envy is one of my struggles. I have to keep reminding myself that God has enough for all of us to be blessed. And I am so grateful that the Prince of Peace offers us rescue from whatever embitters us!

    October 26, 2017
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    • Joy
      Joy

      Hi Alida -thanks for your honesty. It is one of the reasons I shared my struggle. May you receive His rescue too!

      October 26, 2017
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  6. Let me say “Oh my goodness”!!
    It’s not only that you were so eloquent but that you were also bang on!! Beautifully written and so true!!
    Thanks for your transparency and speaking to my heart. It’s amazing what can happen when we choose to sit at His feet…insecurity and all

    October 28, 2017
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    • Joy
      Joy

      Hi Lureta! I’m still amazed at what God did in my moment of insecurity. I couldn’t help but share it with others. I’m glad you enjoyed this post.

      October 28, 2017
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